I’ve found I can no longer enjoy things I used to because of association with an ex. The last person I dated loved facebook, anime, and certain songs… now they remind me of them, and I instantly become agitated. Even if I liked certain things before they came along it doesn’t matter.

Anyone else experience this?

  • PlatinumSf@pawb.social
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    It comes back if you give it time. It takes a while for you to move on from things like that. General rule of thumb is 1 month minimum per year together.

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        Definitely feel free to take a break from certain activities, but don’t give them up if you enjoy them. You’ll eventually be able to enjoy them on your own again. Just give it time :)

  • liv@beehaw.org
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    Definitely, but it wore off after two or three years. Perhaps longer for some of the songs.

  • TimTheEnchanter@beehaw.org
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    I think the only things I’ve given up because of an ex were things I was only into because they were into them, and not because I was. So not things I loved or enjoyed independently.

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    I absolutely have experienced it. Honestly, it was a pretty short relationship, but there were certain areas I had trouble being near for months since I associated those places with them so strongly. It does get better, but I think the timeline is different for everyone.

  • IcedCoffeeBitch@beehaw.org
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    I haven’t dated anyone so haven’t gone through what you said, but to me this sounds like something you can get over eventually :)

  • Sahwa@reddthat.com
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    The last person I dated loved facebook, anime, and certain songs…

    Funny, back then I didn’t even read webtoons or watch anime

    Since the pandemic I started reading webtoons, especially bittersweet romance. And there was a webtoon that mentioned similar experiences with my ex

  • Leafeytea@beehaw.org
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    I did for a time experience this after one of my partners and I broke it off. She had spent an inordinate amount of time being abusive and putting me down for practically every little thing, to the point where I had felt ashamed of enjoying certain things when I was with her, so had stopped doing them. It took me about a year after the relationship was over to work through all that trash and realize that my habits were totally fine, but she was not.

  • FIash Mob #5678@beehaw.org
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    I involved the first love of my life in most of the activities I was into at the time.

    When it ended I had to make significant life changes, and now, I won’t date anyone involved in the things I love the most.

  • Poggervania@kbin.social
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    Not from a romantic relationship, but I’ve had the same feeling for some of the hobbies I used to enjoy after falling out with some friends I knew for a long time. Still don’t do some of things I used to do with that friend group.

  • pamymaf@kbin.run
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    @Vrabielley Not activities per say, but there’s still some music I can’t listen to. And I found I’ve stopped telling stories about a big chunk of my life because he hated then. It gets better, even if slowly.