To extrapolate:

People often say that one should not worry about what others think of them, but life simply doesn’t work that way. What other people think of you really does matter; point-in-fact, it can be everything depending on what field you go into.

Like say, for example, you’re a business owner and you’re recorded arguing with an angry Karen of a customer, the video’s posted online, and the internet sides with the Karen. Then, people boycott your business and you’re left without a livelihood.

Or perhaps you say something crass and get cancelled. Or simply anger or inconvenience someone with a lot of influence.

Or, even more horrifyingly, say you were assaulted and you came forward, and were ostracized and shunned by your community as a result.

How could one set up their life such that it would be impossible for people like that to rob one of their livelihood? How could one make it impossible for others to shun or ostracize them?

How could a business owner set up their business so that other people couldn’t simply shut it down on a whim in such a manner?


EDIT: I’ll just “be myself” since that’s what the majority of people in the thread want and repeat what I said to another individual:

Honestly, the way everybody is acting is really, really shameful. I am a person who made a thread and gave it a [Serious] tag because I wanted serious, literal answers to a serious problem that, given my chosen career path, will affect me at some point in my life and could potentially ruin it without good info to prepare for such a crisis beforehand. But all I’m getting is denial, mockery, condescension, lies, put-downs.

And it’s rooted in this desire to either pretend the problem is not real because you’re all secretly afraid it’ll affect you yourselves, or it’s because you know it’s real but you view it as a positive because ostracization and shunning people is an emotional cudgel you wield to silence people you don’t agree with on the internet, and answering the question honestly would require framing such actions as a negative and that would make you question the morality of your actions. And that’s not only sick, that’s just cowardly. If you believe cancelling people is morally A-O good, then at least have the temerity to threaten me with a “Don’t speak your mind and mask up” response like at least a few people were honest enough to do.

But don’t insult my intelligence by thinking you can lie to my face and pretend that something I’ve been personally watching happen to other people for over a decade is not, in fact, happening.

Now I came here for a serious answer to a serious problem that affects everyone. If you can’t participate in good faith and offer meaningful strategies to avoid or fix such problems and want to either misconstrue it as an emotional issue – much as you’ll do with what I’m saying here after the majority of you demanded I just be myself and not worry about the consequences – or outright deny it’s a real problem when it’s been real for over a decade, just don’t participate in the thread. Just go elsewhere.


Okay, I just acted like myself. Everyone happy?

  • darthfabulous42069@lemm.eeOP
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    I don’t see how perspective can alter the reality of losing your job, your home, or even suffering threats or violence for the slightest misstep, which is how people live nowadays.

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      Perspective meaning what is the actual percentage of business owners that are canceled out of their livelihood versus the percentage of those that aren’t.

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            This just in: local tankie fuck pulls Xi Jinping’s dick out of his mouth long enough to be dismissive and cruel towards OP who made a post asking what to do about people collectively being dismissive and cruel to them. More at 11

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                Ohh, but we’re not supposed to allow ourselves to be affected by the words of others.

                We’re supposed to just take it when others abuse and bully us, because it’s just human nature and a part of life we all have to accept.

                That’s what you’re telling OP. Yet when you’re the one getting it, you complain.

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                  I didn’t say anything to anyone, I’m seeing your comment from All. We might even agree on what you’re saying, but using this level of profanity seems to go against rule 3 of the instance about respect

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                    Oh, well lookie here, we found the tankie’s alt account

                    Guess OP really was right about how the stupid shit people say on the Internet actually does affect people after all. Doesn’t it? Sure as hell affects you.