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Cake day: August 6th, 2023

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  • “Choose interesting jobs”

    THIS! A MILLION TIMES THIS!

    The absolute best career choices I’ve made, in hindsight, were always from the interest in the work or quality of whom I was working with.

    Took jobs for less pay, even turning down much higher offers, to choose the gig that was in the area I wanted to expand in.

    Never accept just based on “it’s a few bucks more”. Unless it’s twice the pay AND you have something else to gain from the role, always grab the better experience or less stressful spot.





  • Don’t let others control your life. If someone is only making you hurt, cut them off clean.

    This especially is for blood relations! Only scared old people say that shit about obeying your elders! If your family or immediate “friends” only use or abuse, get out fast!

    There’s always a place and tribe for you, don’t let assholes dictate who you are or “should be”.

    It took 30 years and most of my physical health to learn that one! Injured spine, nerve damage, financial issues … All from the group I grew up around being hideously toxic.

    I’ve been free of them for about 5 years now and am finally healing, both physically where I can and mentally. Financially too, just slower.

    I now have loving girlfriends, an amazing and healthy daughter, and I’ve been able to start reconnecting with the people that really clicked with me but were forced away by my family and their friends for being too different from them. I barely got a year and a half with my best friend I’d list touch with before he suddenly was diagnosed with and died from pancreatic cancer.

    Don’t waste your time on people who drain you with nothing to return! You and the people who improve you don’t have the time and energy to spare!








  • You are still removing others rights over a hypothetical. It doesn’t miss this, it directly focuses on the point of blame. Punish the parents for exposing their kids. Irresponsibility is not excuse for harm… If a parent leaves hardcore porn laying around for a child to find and harm occurs, don’t punish the uninvolved adult up the street.

    Another form of media doesn’t magically absolve parents from parental responsibility. Stop trying to play the “poor adults have no control over their kids!” Card.

    The “but think of the children!!!” trope is tired and over abused to remove rights and privacy. Move along.


  • How about less “control everyone else” and more “control your own damn kids”.

    My daughter didn’t get unsupervised access until she proved responsible enough to trust. I want to say around 13.

    Just because “I grew up with it unsupervised and it ruined me” doesn’t immediately equal “everyone will have this experience”. Sorry your parents didn’t understand what you were doing. Sorry you saw stuff that bothered you. Don’t punish everyone else for it.

    I’m far from a helicopter parent… Instead, my kid has come to me for help in resolving uncomfortable or problematic interactions. We’ve always been clear and honest about why we’ve asked her to avoid certain things. Even when it made us uncomfortable. Especially then.

    She’s 20 now. Most cheerful kid I’ve ever met. No idea how that happened directly, but I know I can trust her.