Sorry to hear that mate! That’s one of the biggest reasons I’ve never wanted to move towards IT forensics even though I think I’d enjoy the actual work. But having to regularly sift through the absolute worst humanity has to offer sounds awful.
Hope the immediate pain of it settles as soon as possible!
This might not be what people want but since beehaw is going to leave Lemmy anyway, couldn’t you just completely defederate and run as an isolated instance? Then you’d have control of what her life gets published without having to deal with federated nastiness?
Yeah, turning off images wouldn’t be too bad either. If people want to post inages you can just as easily upload them somewhere else and link them.