There are no roles, only consequences. The real question here is what are the consequences, and we can’t know that.

Start looking at jobs at your local city and county governments. A lot of them still come with actual pensions.

It’s all about property rights here. You can always just make more people, right?

Look, I’m a man, I’m not feeling insulted by this at all. If you are, maybe it’s time to ask why.

I have no problem being a man while also acknowledging that sexual assault by men is a problem that is big enough that it has created a “caution culture” where people teach their daughters to be vigilant and women will cross the street if someone is walking behind them to stay safe. It isn’t like this is overblown, studies vary but all agree it’s somewhere more than one in ten women are victims of sexual violence in their lifetime. That’s a non-dismissible statistic.

Sure sexual assault by women is a thing too, but men tend to handle it differently than women do. All we are doing here is acknowledging that in our culture “male stranger danger” is a thing that exists and is pervasive and strong enough that many women would be willing to risk the bear because at least it won’t rape them.

Why would you be taking that personally?

The fact that you think the point of this is your status and not someone else’s safety says so much.

Because the customer has become an entitled piece of shit and you don’t tell an abuser “you’re welcome.”

Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.

If your opinion is that kittens are cute, I’m on board. If your opinion is that everyone over 30 should be sterilized unless they are in a top 10 percent earning category, you’re going to have to work for respect for that, and better have a damn convincing argument.

The fact that you are talking about "letting"her be her own person outside the relationship sort of implies that she might not have already figured out how to do that on her own.

People are right to wave red flags here, but are also right that it isn’t necessarily the age that is the potential problem.

Make sure she knows how to be an independent adult with her own career, hobbies, and motivations, or you get into unpredictable territory.

Omg… yes!