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Cake day: August 2nd, 2023

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  • I’ve known quite a few people/groups that are poly and I dated someone who was poly for a while too. I did it because I didn’t feel like I had to deal with 100% of my partner because that would have crushed me.

    My info is purely anecdotal but two super common threads that kept on appearing is there were people who were poly, but were never actually poly and just said it because their partner wanted to be so they said they were too and that the people who were super committed to poly all were trying to fill a gap in their lives and had a lot of insecurities in general.

    Most hated the idea of ever being alone, not just in ‘a relationship’ but actually just being by themselves.










  • I do around 7-8.5 hours. But some of that is just socialising/chatting with people (I’m in software dev management). Lots of “Sooo… What’s your perception of what’s going on?” “Things going OK?” “Who do I need to talk to to smooth things over?” kinda stuff (the soft skills side of things). It is super rare to go above that unless there’s an incident of some type or something goes totally pear shaped.

    I used to do 10+ last job and despised it. Took a step down in pay for this role but so much less stress. Day ends, I log off and detach from it all.

    Edit: Put per week, not per day…


  • I took the last week and a half off from work and was happy to see when I finally checked my emails (bored at the airport) it didn’t look like anything went to shit! Was nice to get away for a bit, and need to do it more often but tend to procrastinate for stupid reasons…

    Also supposed to go on a second date tomorrow to a gig but we’ll see if that actually happens or she got bored and moved on while I was on holidays.

    But in a good mood. Just got home a couple of hours ago and doing some cleanup/chores.

    It’s been a while since I’ve actually felt ‘happy’ vs ‘anhedonic’.