I still celebrate Christmas - though in more of a yule way than anything resembling christianity. What I think of as the spirit of christmas is…friends/family getting together in winter and sharing what they have.
And, of course, my circumcision…still got that.
I have never been honked at for stopping at a posted stop sign. Maybe that’s how they do it in some other regions of the US, but that’s not how it works in the Pacific Northwest. Are you certain you weren’t honked at for doing something else and just mis-associated it with stopping at a stop sign? Was it a 4 way stop and you didn’t go when it was appropriately your time to go?
After receiving a speeding ticket for doing 53 in a 50
This sounds too ludicrous not to be made up.
I’ve received a LOT of speeding tickets in my life. The only time I’ve EVER gotten a ticket for doing <5 mph over the posted limit is when I was actually doing +14 over the posted limit but the cop wrote it for 10 less than actual because he had to write a ticket but didn’t want it to be excessive…so the final ticket ended up being 54 in a 50 zone.
I can’t imagine anyone not being able to beat a +3 over speeding ticket in court. I probably wouldn’t even call my attorney for that and would just fight it myself.
But neither of us wants to have only one great romance in our lives
That is the most succinct, eloquent, and compelling statement in this entire thread.
Have you also had your own distinct romantic relationships with others since being married, or is that not something you are interested in?
It’s more like: I’ve only ever seen two unicorns, and both were white. Someone is trying to convince me that pink unicorns exist and I am saying I would like to see a pink unicorn.
Seems like you are intentionally trying to start a conflict where none exists.
Not sure how you are misingerpreting what I’ve said, but you are way off here. My previous experiences (don’t know how you got ‘assertions’) are based on an already disclosed small sample size.
I have no judgments and no expectations but I am genuinely curious to learn more about the psycologies and dynamics involved, because it’s completely foreign to me. Are you confusing me with another poster?
Although I am not interested in doing it myself, I consider myself a student of psychology and sociology and am very curious. I hope I have the privilege of meeting a success-case such as yourself in person, who’s not shy about discussing it candidly, because I have a lot of curiosity about it and how it works.
I’m glad it’s working for you. If you don’t mind me asking, how long have you been participating in this relationship, do all 3 live together or separately, and have you always been an end or have you also been the middle of the V?
Would you consider it a perfectly legitimate arrangement if one end of the “V” resents it and is unhappy? Because that’s the only way I’ve ever seen a polyamorous arrangement working in practice (and as I said earlier, I’ve only seen two, and both were like that).
It is not a very commonly used word, but I think the word you are looking for is “defeminize” - it’s the closest ‘clinical’ English word I’ve heard - every other word to describe the feminine equivalent of emasculation is either slang or a slur.
My belief that they can work will be the day I actually see one that works. The score is still zero for two so far.
The very first thing I do is use my cosmic intellect and power to explore the limits of my knowledge and abilities, determine whether it is permanent or not, and then if I determine that it is not permanent…use my current abilities to make it permanent.
Well, granted my sample size is extremely small, but I’ve only ever known 2 polyamorous groups of people well enough to visit their home. And in both cases, there was always 1 person who wasn’t as happy as the other two and was tolerating the scenario due to pressure from the person they considered their ‘significant other’.
The dynamic was: A & B would be considered spouses to each other, A wants to bring in additional person C and create a trio under the banner of “polyamory” and B consents (because they are willing to accommodate anything A wants to make A happy). So person C enters the relationship and they form a polyamorous-trio, but instead of it being a true trio, it’s more like A & B still have their relationship (now burdened) and A & C have a relationship, but B & C don’t engage much. This is the exact scenario I have witnessed in the only 2 households I’ve ever known doing it.
That’s given me the impression that arrangements like that usually serve the needs of one or two people but often leave at least one party secretly unhappy. Maybe if more people actually witnessed polyamory working as it’s been proclaimed, there would be higher opinions of arrangements like that. But I sure haven’t seen it - my current conclusion is that it’s just not within the bounds of human nature for this kind of relationship to work.
There is a centuries-old simple salad recipe involving just cucumbers, onions, vinegar, sugar, salt, pepper.
Anyone saying you can’t have a salad out of cucumber, onions, and dressing…is wrong.
Probably over diagnosed by people self-diagnosing. Probably significantly under diagnosed officially/clinically.
And the above is true for a LOT of conditions, not just ADHD.
Are you considered a dependent minor in whatever country you are in, and living in your parent’s house?
If so, then I don’t think you have a legal reasonable expectation of privacy.
You might get away with a physical barricade (like a door jam, or one of those anti-break-in bars - if your door opens inward), but your mom could escalate and just have the entire door removed if she wanted to and felt it was important enough.
This is the answer. High fructose corn syrup is over-used because it’s dirt cheap to produce, and it’s only dirt cheap to produce because corn is subsidized.
As much as I love my bourbon whiskey, I’ll accept the fact that prices will go up if corn stops being subsidized, but that’s what’s desperately needed in this country.
I see you ignored the other comments in the subthread. Someone did provide an extremely thorough answer which the commenter dismissed as not believing the author was credible…rather than exploring the numerous valid claims and arguments. My comment was not only a perfect description of what was happening, but also turned out to be prophetic about what would happen next. Their original challenge was not in good faith and was intentionally designed to cause someone to have to go out and do a ton of work only to be dismissed.
Your comment is textbook sealioning.
Your employer is ALWAYS looking for a way to either get more work out of you for the same compensation, or replace you with some one or some process that produces the equivalent output for less cost. The entire idea that employees should be loyal to their employers is one of the most successful propaganda campaigns ever spawned by capitalism.
On April Fools Day 2006, I woke up to what I later found out was a spontaneously collapsed lung.
Anyone who’s experienced a collapsed lung can assure you the treatment is brutal. They basically cut open your chest between two of your ribs (on the affected side), insert a tube and sew it in place, then apply a light vacuum on that tube to suck out the air and fluid between your chest cavity and lung, causing your lung to re-inflate. You also go through a powerful round of antibiotics and are put on oxygen to make up for your 50% reduced lung function. The suction process takes about a week, and the pain is excruciating and immune to powerful pain killers.
I would have died from this without the emergency surgery and treatment, and if it had been just 60 years earlier, a collapsed lung would have been a death sentence.