Yeah I’m just trying to raise this take every once in a while in the hopes of making systematic progress on this issue at some point ^^

While I don’t think emulation is a bad way in every case, in most cases it’s a huge risk and probably only helpful to a very small degree. This stuff can get very complex and I’m neither a scientist studying psychology nor a therapist, and for that matter I think those are the people that should brain storm a proper way to treat those people.

And we can start by calling them what they are in the first place. Sick in the brain. Mentally ill. And then we can start treating them properly.

And if they still commit crimes, then we can all say we tried our best and we prioritize our short term safety again over long term reduction and they will go to prison for (at least) a while.

But yeah, finding a better systematic way to prevent sexual crimes should be our priority over the satisfaction of identifying and shaming people with bad thoughts.

Yes it would. If I knew someone is thinking about murder and someone else is doing the murder, and I could choose, I would definitely take the one thinking about murder.

Now it would be great if no one was thinking about murder in the first place but the world is complex, and because we are able to choose to some degree, let’s do that instead of saying “IDC, both is bad, I’ll take any of them”.

History shows us pedophiles exist. Some have thoughts, some commit crimes.

If we imprison all of them, that just means people will never tell you about it and they resort more to repression and crimes. But if we only imprison the ones who act on it, we open the rest of them up to the possibility that everyone accepts they won’t “go away” and we could focus on making sure they don’t act on it.

And there’s potential: a combination of different therapies helping them learn to live with it in a safe way could go a long way.

If we help them, we help us.

But if we criminalize their thoughts, they will resort to crime, because that’s all they know.

everyone has at least 20 minutes […] every day.

No.

A lot of people do, but a lot of people don’t.

They may have months without any time surplus. And then maybe some months where they do have a significant time surplus.

But never assume everyone has the same time to dedicate to things.

My mom is currently working 50h weeks and I’m sure that’s on the lower end for some people. I’d prefer her to focus on not getting burnout so she is able to survive a bit longer, and that means she physically can’t.

I’m always torn about this.

If you have those thoughts and act on it, it’s a crime and it’s awful. But if you don’t, why should we penalize you? Shouldn’t we encourage people with those thoughts not to act on it?

It’s a really dark topic, but I really wish we could properly discuss it. And if we consider how many people seem to have those thoughts, we should find a better way than to hunt them. Because to them it’s just a “damned if you do, danned if you don’t” and that’s probably gonna encourage more crimes.

Unfortunately considering how bipartisan all conversations are and how hard it is to discuss those topics, it’s gonna be awhile until we can really take a shot at improving our processes when it comes to that.

Nice

Is this satire?

Let’s goooooo we getting a bean reveal

There’s always a risk but considering currently there’s no incentive for ppl to invest their time and sanity, I think you’re fine.

Unless you do stupid things. No one is liable if you do stupid things :)

I don’t like that at all.

Hate on billionaires all you want, but a platform like this shouldn’t be forced to moderate. It runs completely counter to the USP of the app. It’s encrypted anonymous communication capabilities.

I don’t know if there’s ads in there, but I think a bigger part of your description matches with “Pou”.

Windows.

My hobbies and my work require a lot of different software. On MacOS everything would be expensive af and not customizable at all.

On Linux only 50% of the stuff would work, only 50% of that would work well and stable, and only 50% can be installed in less than 3h. And I need my software to be up and running in 7 days not 5 months.

I put this in another post as well, but the toxic positive endorsements of Linux really tick me off. If you use it, cool. If you like it, cool. If you wanna tell others it’s nice, cool.

But if you have to tell ppl how they are using the wrong OS, windows, on almost completely unrelated posts, you make ppl dislike the Linux community, you downplay that Linux can be a serious commitment and that mileage may vary, speaking from experience. You are doing an active disservice to everyone.

Everyone has their own os, and just how I can appreciate that ppl have good reason to use MacOS, Linux Users should be able to appreciate that ppl like me can not switch and even if they do, it is often not worth it in any way.

Also if I get down votes so be it, I think this just needs to be said rn. No hate for anyone using any OS, in fact I’m curious about the other comments:)

It’s actually a really nice thing to know that (a) your country makes sure you get into less accidents and (b) that your company usually pays for any workplace accidents, even if it’s remote.

I work remotely at a company in the EU where they actually host seminars about posture and stuff because it’s better for them than dealing with workplace injury from bad posture.

Idk, every company is different and so is every country.

But let me also make clear, I’m not arguing this isn’t odd. Just some things to rule out before going mayhem.

No they are not fine in any sense. If they are true, they are awful, but in order to prove them, we need a better source. A PRIMARY source. Some corroborating evidence. Give us something more than 3 layers of hearsay which would be beyond inadmissible in court.

Although you are reciting a source, your source is so indirect and unproven that you’re basically dancing on the line of defamation (although of course no one could give enough of a shit to sue).

If you alledge those things, you better have a good reason and at least a handful of evidence. Otherwise you are doing a disservice to every woman out there trying to prove awful allegations, because she has to fight all the mistrust you are building up.

I think there’s a few things in your response that trigger alarm bells.

First of all, it sounds like your environment is awful. Can you try to change things just a bit? Step by step? Identify what exactly it is (if it’s family, try to get some distance to them (try to not hang around them if you can, etc.), if it’s friends, try to go out and do your own thing for a bit and maybe try to approach new ppl, if it’s school, talk to someone you trust and maybe figure out a solution where you can get some help there.

In general if you can, maybe therapy could help. If it’s a permanent thing, and that’s what it sounds like, a therapist can help you find solutions to deal with it.

What’s kind of odd to me is that you say it’s the little things that contribute a lot. Now having a bad day is not odd, but if it’s one of the reasons you have a bad life rn, that’s odd. I would look into why this still affects you in that magnitude. This something else you could talk with a therapist about.

I know that if you have good mental health usually these small things shouldn’t throw you off, they are just a bit annoying. That’s basically how usually ppl deal with it.

Now mind you I’m def not judging, I let small things get to me as well, but I’m in therapy for related issues and that’s why I know I will improve.

And the thing with social media: basically, there’s infinite good things and infinite bad things on social media. But the response to bad things is much stronger than it is too good things, that’s why social media has a bias to display bad things (news, etc). So either limiting social media usage can be good, or you can try to curb news and stuff to get less of a skewed view. I did the same - I completely removed my reddit account (which tends to have a more pessimistic user base) and on Lemmy I started unfollowing a lot of news communities. It’s just more healthy for me to see more neutral and positive things.

So yeah I hope I could help you. And always remember, as long as you believe it will get better, it will. Your brain has an amazing ability to reinforce positive thinking patterns if you concentrate on them and this in turn makes you behave more positively towards others and therefore can actively help you on your conquest to change your environment. Wish I could link you studies on this rn but I can only give you the good ole trust me bro guarantee.

Good luck on making a change, I believe if you do you can be a big positive influence for others :)

The best reason to help others is because you are selfish and you like the feeling of helping someone else.

Because it means there is an endless supply of motivation to do the right thing.

Is this the US? Because iirc there’s some workplace injury stuff in some EU countries, where the company might be liable and so they might need to advise you to do certain things to prevent injury if you work remotely.

Not trying to take the wind out of your sails, just making ppl aware.

Yes. I didn’t list blender because blender is kind of a unique case. An open source tool that basically slowly became industry standard? That’s a 1 in a million from what I’ve seen. But: as soon as you get professional, like I said, all the plugins and additional software will cause headaches, provided it works at all. The tools I listed there afaik do not have native support / are very unstable on Linux, although I haven’t confirmed it.

But yeah I get your point, and it is quite the accomplishment to the blender devs that they made it this far, tho it is not the rule.

Yes and people sell Linux to my like “either it works out of the box or it takes like 1google search” and that’s polar opposite from my longer experience on Linux.

For work I had to set up an Ubuntu VM. Ubuntu is one of the most stable OS variants. But: it literally started throwing system application errors after 2h from a fresh install. We thought it was a one time thing or that we did something wrong so we tried again. The OS disk image was official and our VM Software was Virtual box. Both are supposed to be stable. And still, the OS started crying 2h in every time.

Or another time where I had to find scanner drivers and I lost it. 5h of searching and tinkering, I had to rewrite scripts I found which didn’t work, had to add package manager repositories to my system, and try to look for 15y+ old forum posts which get very technical but also not really in depth. For a fucking scanner.

And then that time aI wanted to install some software (I think maybe Skype) from the official Ubuntu store. But it just wouldn’t work. Everyone else apparently had no issues online. Everyone except for me. Tried to install it through downloading an archive and when that didn’t work I installed it through the terminal apt-get. It still wouldn’t work iirc.

Or that time I had an Ubuntu VM for like half a year and applications started to hang and the system started getting random issues.

Or that time Linux system just threw errors on every system upgrade (same happened to updates).

This is a reoccurring thing and this toxic Linux positivity will only make more people mad when things are not as promised and they realize they are fucked.