I choose you for choosing there dead wife ∆∆∆∆∆

I agree, it is probably not advisable for most people to do what I did.

There are many details left out of the story, but the things that really helped were that it was obvious to everyone she was a good person that was having some kind of mental illness. The police and judge were definitely not thrilled with her, but they all seemed to recognize she was not your typical troublemaker. They could have made the situation much harder to deal with.

Also her being from a family that is solidly upper middle class that is very close with each other. They also supported her emotionally, and were able to afford her treatment at the hospital and her lawyer whereas I would not have been able to.

She was extremely fortunate, all considered, throughout the whole process. It was always apparent that she wanted help. I’m a bit of refurbished “damaged goods” myself, so I was able to spot a lot of potential situations before they got much chance to develop, and could tell her to get her medications adjusted or what things to talk to her psychologist about.

Most people in her case I’m sure do not have anywhere near the resources available we did, which I do not take for granted, and she has known that also, especially being in the group therapies has shown her what could have been and I feel that was very helpful.

I don’t like getting credit for anything, as with any one factor being missing from the whole situation would have let the whole mess fall back down. I absolutely was one key ingredient, but if you asked me, I’d say a few other people were more overall significant.

But she’s the only one that had to be there through the whole thing. The rest of us could all have given up if we wanted to at any time. But she faced it all head on and dealt with every bit of it herself. It takes an amazingly strong person to do that, and that is my favorite thing about her is that inner strength while still caring so much for the other people around her.

My girlfriend had a lot of untreated mental/personality conditions when I met her that I was unaware of. Over the first year, she couldn’t keep it together anymore and was doing drugs more, missing tons of payments on things, missing work, fighting with friends and coworkers, and just started being rude to people for no reason.

She was still really nice to me, but she just wasn’t behaving like the person I met anymore. I started considering breaking up with her, but by that point she was starting to get in trouble with the police. I kicked her out and sent her back to her family and she ended up checking into a mental facility.

I visited her pretty frequently while she was there. I told her she should have been more forthcoming because I couldn’t help her if I didn’t know what was going on. I told her I was ready to dump her because I thought she was becoming an asshole, but now that I knew she was just sick, we’d get her taken care of.

She went through a couple years of finding the right medications that she could stick with and did a lot of therapy, group meetings, and DBT classes.

During Covid she registered to go to community college and give that another try. It was a bit difficult getting back in after failing out before, but she got in and worked really hard. She was the favorite of a lot of the teachers, and she almost got all As through the 2 years.

She graduated this year and had a job offer where she was interning waiting for her, and now she has a job she loves, and makes decent money.

We repaired her credit over the years, and it’s getting back to near excellent. We got her a new car when she had to commute to intern and do in person class and she’s kept it in good shape and quit smashing into things. She has great relationships with people now. She’s really done a total and successful rebuild after hitting rock bottom, and she’s still a friendly, caring person who is fun to be around.

I was extremely proud to see her graduate. I feel that was a major milestone from where she started. I don’t think I could have gotten myself out of what she was in. She had to work tremendously hard, but she was dedicated and determined for the years it took to accomplish, and she’s never skipped backwards. I could not be much prouder of her.

I wouldn’t be doing my job if I didn’t promote the superb Owl!

Stealth

Great Eye Sight

Many have 3D hearing to “see” under leaves or snow

Near silent flight

Can rotate their head 270 degrees

Tremendously strong grip strength

Beautiful and effective camo for any environment

Have settled almost everywhere on Earth but Antarctica (so far!)

Great facial expressions

Diverse vocalizations

They can control positioning of individual feathers to either thermoregulate or to change the focus of their hearing.

Their eyes dilate individually to maintain peak vision when one eye is in a shadow, but the other in the sun.

Have a third eyelid to protect those special peepers while fighting, eating, or from dryness and abrasion in flight.

And I’m sure I forgot a few things, but that’s a good start to the amazing world of owls!

The hippo is the true king of beasts! So cute and plump, yet so deadly and fiercely protective. Also much faster than you would ever believe something that big can run on land, yet is almost stealth in the water until you’ve angered it. It also has one of the most powerful bites and skin 2 inches/ 6 cm thick.

I’ve become the go-to owl person of Lemmy, but I’m a long time hippo fan.

Crunchwrap, either the breakfast one or the lunch/dinner one. If hard pressed, I’d say the breakfast one is better.

I don’t like the Baja Blast personally, but you should try it as I think it’s the only place you can get it.

Diablo sauce I think tastes like a spiced ketchup or BBQ sauce, too sweet for me, but the girlfriend loves it.

Those are the most unique items to me.

I’ve been using Kiwi for the last few years, as at the time Firefox didn’t do extensions on mobile. It’s Chromium based, and I’ve had no issues using it anywhere.

This was what I came here to say.

My HOA is thankfully decent, but I know many have but had positive experiences.

When we’re talking Lemmy instances, packing up and moving is one thing, but when we’re talking residence, who’s going to want their local dictator running things?

People like to hate on things like McDonalds or Budweiser and so on, but with that massive oversight and standardization, you gain a consistent product. With laws and their enforcement, it’s nice to have that consistency.

Worry about red/blue states is bad enough, let alone if we’re talking red/blue streets! Some things are better big and boring.

Ethiopian is amazing! So much flavor, plus you get to eat the plate and utensils! 😁

I try to pick something I’ve never had before first my birthday meal every year. The best one was probably the Uzbek place. Everyone there kept trying to talk to me in Uzbek as we appeared to be the only native English speakers in the house, so I’ll assume it was authentic.

All kinds of grilled meats, multiple types of breads, fancy sodas (tarragon was awesome!), sour cherry pierogies with whipped sour cream, stuffed pasta… They had some of everything with their own twist on it. I had plov, the national dish, which was a rice pilaf with grilled meat. Absolutely delicious.

I’d say the hardest cuisines to find here are anything African or anything Eastern European. For that though, the secret is keeping an eye out for church festivals. The Greek Orthodox Church has one that has African and Eastern European, the Polish shrine has a Polish festival, and the Coptic church had Egyptian.

I have the AP Top Stories page as my bookmark. It gets rid of even more of the stuff OP doesn’t want.

Only borderline story is about Taylor Swift and food banks, but the focus is on the economics and other issues food banks face, so I feel it is still within guidelines. There’s no celeb drama or gushing in it.

This and my local NPR affiliate are my primary news sources.

Perfect!

Give that a read, and then if you want to follow it, the wiki will give you the current lowest costs funds for all the major companies so you can do your IRA/401/HSA into the best funds available.

The Bogleheads Guide to Investing was the thing that helped me the most. My family got me prepared for day to day finance, but nobody explained retirement savings to me.

This book broke everything down into easy to understand terms, and made me feel comfortable investing wisely.

The book used to be free online, but I don’t see it anymore. You could search up a PDF, or they have a really good wiki that covers most of it, but more briefly. Here is the Getting Started page.

Was bored one day and decided to watch Bojack Horseman since it had that guy from Arrested Development in it. It was weird, but funny, so I kept watching.

After a while, I started to recognize a lot of myself and things similar to my life, and since I was seeing someone else do this stuff, I knew that it wasn’t healthy or necessarily supposed to be funny if it were a real person.

It helped me to start understanding that all my life, I’ve had horrible depression that lead me to really sabotage myself and almost every relationship I’ve ever had with anyone.

I ended up talking to my doctor, and it turned out to be something that was very easy to fix, and as soon as I got on the proper medicine, I almost immediately started experiencing life in a new way.

It helped me come to better terms with a lot of my childhood, and I no longer felt a crushing weight every day and could deal with day to day events in a healthy way.

I’m still a damaged person who doesn’t quite understand a lot of things I think “normal” people understand, but I’m able to identify it and talk about it instead of it making me angry and frustrated.

I’m in an overall significantly better place now. I understand myself a good bit more, and I’ve come a long way in being a better person. I still carry a lot of emotional weight not that I realize all the bad things I’ve done to so many people, and I frequently feel the loss of those relationships, but it’s more a reminder of how far I’ve come instead of something actively hurting me still after all these years.

I really liked the show, and there’s a lot of fun things in it, but it’s hard for me to watch now, as it reminds me too much of old me. I do really love Paul F Tomkins though and listen to him on Threedom and I just saw him on the Comedy Bang Bang tour.

I never expected a talking horse to turn my life around when nothing else did, but I won’t complain.

Agreed. The paper in the basket will neither conduct as much heat away from the fries as a plate and doesn’t seem to trap as much steam.

Haven’t had this in a while, but Sal’s Sassy Sauce (NY chicken chain) is like a mustard based sweet and sour sauce. With the love mustard has been getting on these condiment threads, some of you may be interested.

Here’s the closest recipe I can find to the one I’ve used, though my recipe has yellow mustard instead of Dijon. I feel yellow mustard is most like the original. I don’t think it would get the right color with Dijon.

This recipe is fairly large, but the amounts look like they should 1/4 easily. I made the whole thing and put it in a squeeze ketchup bottle.

Try it on anything you’d like a sweet or honey mustard on.

I’m relatively new to this also, but here’s my take…

I looked at 2 transcriptions I found, listened to the chorus a few times, and tried what you had on my piano vs what the transactions had.

I think it’s better without a slur or glissando. The “hap-py, heal-thy” doesn’t seem to have any legato in the recording, not quite staccato, but the notes sound articulated separately in the B - E - B - E to me.

The transcriptions just have those 4 notes as 1/4 notes, and I feel that is correct.

I bounce back and forth between 2 local places. With a simple food like pizza, the little differences in the ingredients and how they’re prepared come through moreso than in a complicated dish.

The one place has a chewier crust, the other has a breadier crust. One has a sweeter sauce. The place I originally went to when I came here made a more well done crust that I didn’t like, but it’s one of the more popular places in town, so some people definitely prefer it. With local places you’re not stuck with a single flavor or style and you can get what you’re in the mood for that day.

With that said, sometimes Domino’s or Pizza Hut takes me back to childhood memories, which helps out the flavor there. I never had Pappa John’s as a kid, so I didn’t like it much as an adult, but the other 2 remind me of being a kid. They’re probably not arbitrarily better than Pappa John’s, but they get the nostalgia bonus.

You are likely not missing out on anything. The feature set is on the F-droid link, so you can see if there’s anything extra you’d like to try. Moon Reader is probably a bit more polished and pretty to my recollection.