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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • I don’t think that’s feasible for anyone. Pretty soon your and every other user would be flooded with unwanted content, which will take time off all users individually to filter out. What this will result in is filterlists being made by community members, which the clients will use, some by default so that the system remains usable even for new users.

    I don’t see how that would make a meaningful difference.
    I mean sure, technically now it’s you who’s filtering, but is it really you if 1. the filterlists are maintained by a 3rd party and 2. you don’t have the capacity to audit all changes to the filterlists?





  • I’m not denying that ace spectrum people have relationships and settle down as well. But OP is asking about the normative (read allosexual) experience and explicitly mentions physical attraction.

    I don’t think this only applies to ace people. Sometimes you just realize you can’t have everything, settle with someone “below your standards” in respect to that, and even if you sleep in the same bed, you don’t do anything with each other in that way.

    Thing is, sex is not a privilege. If you - as someone in such a situation as OP - can’t accept that, you are in danger of growing… hateful views. I don’t want to become such a person, and it’s clear that it’s not their fault that they are not attracted to me. Realizing this helped me accept it.
    To be totally clear, yes, I’m not ace, I have the desire, but that’s just not how it works.

    There are still other benefits of having a partner, like not being lonely and sharing the costs of living.

    To also respond to OP, I don’t know if this is “the solution”. This is better for everyone involved than the alternative where you grow to be a hateful person. But maybe you should reevaluate if you are really in such a situation as you think. Possibly you are right, possibly not.



  • Also ban talking on the street, public transport, and trees. All of these can be very noisy, and I can’t stand it! Oh and bikes too, their bells are very infuriating, especially when it’s bad and rings all the time… and better not let your kids play in the front of the yard!

    Seriously, I have seen loud motors, but haven’t any loud scooters. Which one do you think is loud?
    In my experience cars and newborns are louder, not by a little margin, just to give a few examples.