Newtra

That’s some awful gaslighting.

I have no idea how these people make it through 8-12 years of college without even getting their understanding of common diseases up to a wikipedia level.

I’ve had psychiatrists push this crap.

One even refused to write me a prescription and insisted I just needed to get outside more after listening to an hour-long recounting of how my ADHD makes self-care difficult to impossible.

Though my lizard brain demands me to be around other people, most of the things that bring me genuine life satisfaction are just easier to do solo. When I’m at purely social events I also get this sense of dread that I could be making better use of my time.

The voice in my head is making contradictory demands, so I’ve learned to not feel bad for circumventing it. I have my own goals in life, instincts be damned.

I find that listening to people casually talking is usually enough to satisfy the lizard brain, so I listen to a lot of stuff in the background: YouTube video essays, Twitch Just Chatting streamers, etc. When it gets particularly demanding I’ll try engaging with the people, but usually I just let my subconscious listen while I’m focusing on more important stuff.

ooo, I love this. It reminds me of how nice C#'s LINQ is…

“Pipeline style” DB queries have some interesting advantages as well:

• It’s straightforward to write efficient queries for DBs that don’t include a query optimizer stares at Datomic
• You can split the pipeline into server-side and client-side steps when working with less capable DBs stares at most of NoSQL
• It would be much easier to transition from a pipeline API to a non-text-based API so that our ORMs/query builders can directly talk to DBs without the overhead of generating and parsing SQL.