• Zippy@lemmy.world
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      You should will each person you want to scorn at least one dollar. They then can not argue that they were simply forgotten.

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    Personally i dont care, really.

    When i die im dead, so i will stop giving fucks.

    I dont care what happens to my body

    I dont care what happens to my stuff

    Just make sure im dead

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      If you have dependants, then they certainly care if your affairs are in order, or not. Dealing with the aftermath of a death is not trivial when it comes to number of hoops to jump through.

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        Not even just dependents but even friends and other family. I recently saw someone go through being an executor of a friend’s will, and that will was relatively in order, and it still took over a year to wind everything up.

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      Preparing for death is more about relieving the anxieties of your life. Preparing for death can help to lessen anxiety about dying.

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    According to someone I met recently who shared way too much – a will. Apparently her husband passed away unexpectedly and it has been a nightmare getting everything sorted.

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    Have a method for your loved ones to access all of your important passwords. If you have a password manager, having a shared vault with a trusted partner or family member is important.

  • Thordros [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    A direct cremation plan. And instructions to not have your ashes interred in a graveyard or funeral home. It’ll save your loved ones thousands of dollars, and save them from being exploited by the multi-billion dollar funeral industry.

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        Okay, so:

        Direct cremation is a very specific thing that morticians are obligated to provide, at risk of losing their license if they refuse. It costs less than a thousand bucks (but usually a lot less), and they don’t make a lot of money off of it. So, they’re unlikely to offer that service unless you use those specific words: DIRECT CREMATION.

        What that means is your body is cremated, and your loved ones get your remains back in a plastic bag in a box. They can spread your ashes wherever you want. Or flush you down the toilet. But they probably shouldn’t do that, because there’s bits of bone in there and that would be really awkward to explain to a plumber. But you get the idea.

        Funeral directors will attempt to take advantage of your family’s grief to upsell them on virtually everything imaginable. I mean, you loved X, didn’t you? Don’t they deserve the best? They’re monsters. When my brother died our parents were ready to hand over $15,000 to those ghouls for nothing. I intervened, and the same service they wanted was possible for around $800.

        Fuck funeral homes.

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      Would you even care if you’re dead anyway? Maybe some far descendant can stumble across my posts and put them in his family history folder.

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        I don’t like the idea of all my conversations online being right there word for word for my family to see without my ability to give any context .

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          Theoretically though, if youre already dead, would it even matter? To me, what youre describing would be the same as if, say, your grandkids or whatever descendants ended up finding a photoalbum filled with pics of you and letters you wrote to friends and family and such. There would be no outside context from you but it could still be a nice heirloom for your grandkids/great grandkids to remember you by and learn a bit about what type of person you were.

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            For the entirety of human existence, people have not been privy to word for word conversations for large swaths of all their friends and family. I’m not sure I’m ready to just accept that new reality.

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        Are they doing that with everyone removing their content lately? So much for having control of your user account and persona.

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    Might be a good idea to have all of your financials and passwords available or communicated to your next of kin. If they never log into your retirement account from 3 jobs ago then it becomes forfeited to your government usually

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    Make sure you add a statement of wishes to your will, especially look into your digital legacy. My will was straightforward but my statement of wishes was lengthy and the poor lawyer had never had to deal with anything like it before so had to consult a senior partner. In the end they just copy and pasted it over - money for old rope.

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        It’s quite lengthy.

        It covers my digital legacy so gives the password to my password manager and a list of key accounts that need shuttering, especially my Wikipedia admin account.

        Then various classes of items to different places - academic books to the university library, others to specialist collections, general fiction off to one person, comics to another and on.

        If it’s something you are interested in, you should read around on the subject as various guides give you examples that may be closer to your circumstances.

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          can you dm me your will id like to use it for reference you seem to very knowledgable

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            I’ve rather not as there’s a tonne of personal information in there and little that would necessarily be relevant to you.

            My best advice to anyone is search for “statement of wishes” and then “digital legacy” and that will get you the guides I used. I can’t claim to have any greater knowledge and experience than they provided, just enough to befuddle a junior lawyer.

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    weird how no one mentioned anything to do with your organs (i actuakly have no idea what to do with them either rofl what does one do)

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      When my husband died unexpectedly, he had requested to be an organ donor (USA). The funeral home had me sign a consent form to allow his organs to be harvested. I didn’t know which ones, but it was a time-urgent matter. I hope some of his organs went to people who needed them. He was a healthy 30-year-old man.

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        sorry for your loss thats terrible. also, sorry to say this but are you sure it was a legitimate operation? organ donation is tje US is highly unregulated and many donated bodies domt get used for intended purposes. if you want to know more about that look into ‘stephen douglas gore’.

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        I don’t plan to die with any of my organs in a usable state. I won the genetic lottery, I earned my organs fair and square. I earned it, I’m going to use every square inch of it.

        EDIT: /s

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          Depends on the organ. No one is going to want my lungs or liver, but depending on how and when I die I could see my eyes still being useful for example.